The #1 Secret In Helping You Get Over A Breakup With a Girl

What would men be without women? Scarce sir…mighty scarce.

–Mark Twain

I was in a rut. Didn’t seem like I was making progress, or going anywhere. My girlfriend of one year decided to break up with me and leave the country. Just my luck. Just when I was starting to like her, she leaves and not only leaves myself, but leaves my entire country and homeland behind.

I felt like I wasn’t getting over her either. Every day I would think about her. When I would see something weird, it would remind me of her novel quirkiness. I would sit on the couch every night and watch our favorite tv show we would watch together and it would remind me of her then, too. I even ate the same foods we used to eat together – she was not only reserved to my internal thoughts. She had infected my eyesight, hearing, and tastebuds with her addictive aurora. Something needed to change for me to progress and move on in a significant way. Something impactful to my very being and soul.

Then another girl entered my life. She came unexpectedly and changed my world and my day everyday after the moment she arrived. She came into my life like a burning candle, lighting everything that was previously dark and lonely, turning everything into brightness and full of happiness and excitement. She was not the girl I expected. The girl I expected to help me get over my ex who dumped me two years ago was to be planned, sought after, and predictable. I guess I needed something completely unpredictable to barge into my life and make a change to change my perspective on the world, and make me realize I was filling my life with way too many complications, and not enough of life’s simply pleasures.

Everyday, I would get up and look forward to seeing her smiling face and happy personality that said, “I love you” every time we saw each other. We would go on a walk every morning, and I would try to keep up with her, and then we would play in the yard and wrestle and act like little kids full of mischief. Then, as the day would end, she would cuddle up next to me on the kitchen floor, as I would listen to my parents speak about the days activities, and what they were up to. It was safe to say that I cherished those moments more than anything, and I would not give them up for anything in the world. I think I was finally in love again, but this kind of love was better, not full of bull, and I didn’t have to question whether or not it was real for a second.

This girl was my corgi puppy, and I believe she was one of the single most important factors in helping me get over my breakup, and moving on to better things in my life. For two years, I was stuck in the same place – thinking about her. I felt like I needed closure to the relationship, because no matter how many times we broke up within that one-year period we were together, it felt like we never truly broke up. It was the worst feeling – being stuck in no man’s land where you felt like you were broken up with someone, but at the same time questioned whether it was really for real this time. My corgi, as well as getting on a good daily routine and enjoying the good things in life, showed me that life has other things to offer rather than women and love. Life has companionship, the feeling of being outside, bike riding, and many more niceties that make life wonderful and in some ways are better than being in love with any girl. Here are six reasons how getting a puppy will help you get over your breakup, and will lead you well on your way to becoming a better man:

1. It will show you there are other things in life besides the girl you’re getting over

As I mentioned earlier, there are many other things in life that are wonderful and nice besides being in love with a girl. When you are getting over a breakup, the paradox is that this is difficult and sometimes seemingly impossibly to see. But the truth is that you can get as much happiness from playing outside with you puppy than going and dealing with the complexities of a relationship. Now, I’m not saying you should never pursue a relationship, because being with a girl is a great feeling. But, think of it this way – when you eat at Thanksgiving, do you just eat one delicious food, such as turkey? No, you eat several delicious homemade foods, because they all taste good and the meal tastes better when you include a little bit of everything. You eat turkey, cranberry sauce, green beans, mashed taters’, pumpkin pie, etc. The same holds true with life – it is much better when you include a little bit of everything, and don’t focus so much on one single aspect of your life and let it control your life.

2. It will force you to exercise!

This is one of the overlooked benefits of getting a dog, and in particular a small, active, herding dog who loves to run and chase everything that comes within sight (corgis). When you go outside and play with your corgi, if she is anything like my corgi, she will run circles around you and chase you till’ your face turns blue and you can’t breathe (just kidding). Guess what? You have already got your cardio done for the week.

3. It will give you responsibility, which will distract you from your ex

Puppies can be a lot of work. They involve feeding, giving water, walking, careful oversight, and lots of attention to grow up and be the healthy dogs they were destined to be. Dogs are pack animals, which means they are very social and rely on social interaction on a daily basis. So if you neglect your puppy, then this is very detrimental to the puppy and she may not grow up healthy and be the dog she was meant to be. Getting in a routine that consistently requires you to give attention, time, food, and water to your puppy will force you to spend that time in a positive rather then negative way, such as stalking your ex on social media or laying in bed thinking about how much you miss your ex.

4. She will force you to go outside

When we are down about being broke up with, we tend to want to lay inside all day and be lazy, while gloating about our ex. This does not sit well with a corgi. She will want to go outside at every opportunity and every chance you give her to try and chase anything that moves. If she goes outside, you are inevitably going to have to go with her to make sure she doesn’t do something daring, like try and take on a one-thousand pound horse (which corgis love to do). Being outside had shown to increase levels of positive emotions, and in general is very healthy and will surely put you on your way to getting over that breakup.

5. You will have something to look forward to everyday

When you are going through a breakup, you might feel like you don’t have a ton to look forward to every day because you may wrongly think your life will never be the same without her. Although this is not true, when you get a puppy you will see that you do have something to look forward to everyday – a smiling little face of joy. Who could not be happy with that?

6. You will see that you often over complicate life

One of the interesting aspects of being around a puppy is that everything seems simple to their perspective. When they are happy, they wag their tail. When they are sad, they howl or whine. When my puppy wants attention, she howls. When my puppy is angry or is not ok with something, she lets out a subtle growl. We as human being tend to overcomplicate our lives and emotions. When we are sad we tend to overcomplicate life and think about the situation over and over, for months upon end. We even sometimes sit in our rooms and think about it, or sit on our bed and think about it all day and have trouble leaving the past and have trouble looking at it for what it was – a failed relationship. That does not mean you failed, that just means the relationship failed and you and your ex weren’t right for each other. That does not mean she was a failure necassarily, and does not mean you were a failure. Some items in this world do not mix, like fire and gasoline, or orange juice and toothpaste. That does not mean you need to overthink and overcomplicate the situation and your life. Sometimes, the best solution is to just let out a long howl.

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Like this post? I highly recommend you check out my other similar post, 5 Things Not To Do After A Breakup, which are five things I know you are already doing or you’re about to after your girlfriend breaks up with you, or check out 5 Rules For How To React Immediately After a Breakup, which gives you 5 solid and hard rules to follow so you know how to act and get over the breakup like a man.

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