5 Rules For How To React Immediately After A Breakup

Strength does not come from winning. Your struggles develop your strengths. When you go through hardships and decide not to surrender, that is strength.

— Arnold Schwarzenagger

So you have just had your girlfriend tell you “she wants to take a break” or “she wants to see other people.” Translation – she no longer wants to see you and wants to breakup. You feel devastated because you thought you found the love of your life – I know because I’ve been there, but let me tell you, it will be ok, I promise. Here are five basic rules I have used to handle myself during the initial phase of a breakup for you newly-single 20-something year-old college guys out there –

1. Eat some healthy food.

This is one of the most important points I can make. If you have bad fuel in your body you will feel terrible. If you feel terrible you will be more likely to make bad decisions. Those bad decisions could include eating more junk foods that make you feel terrible, and so the cycle continues. Go on a reasonably healthy clean eating plan and schedule some cheat days or cheat meals if you need them.

2. Workout

Do not stop working out all together and lay in your mom’s basement crying yourself to sleep every night. Take the time to go to the gym on a set schedule or better yet, work out at home (this is what I usually do). I am no scientist but it is a proven fact that many feel-good chemicals are released in the body when you run, lift weights, cycle, etc. This will keep your mind off the girl who just dumped you and will give you an escape from thinking about how sorry you may feel for yourself.

3. Take a break from social media

This is something I did when my second girlfriend in college broke up with me while I went on vacation for Spring Break. I was excited to actually get out of my parents house for a week and experience some freedom, but knew I had to get away from thinking about her and seeing pictures of her and her new boyfriend, so I decided to turn my phone off for the majority of the trip. Now I know this was a solid move.

4. Do not constantly call/text/contact your ex

This is one of the biggest mistakes I used to make, and guys make in general. Do not constantly call or text your ex and ask questions like, “why?” and “please talk to me?” This not only will slow the process of you getting over her, but will also make you look extremely needy and will annoy her. Women want a man that is secure and confident in himself. Do not try to bombard her phone.

5. Hang out with family/friends

This is one of the most important points because after you have physically taken care of yourself through working out and eating healthy by maintaining a consistent and reasonable eating and workout schedule, you will then be able to emotionally be in a better place by seeing your best friend or family and spending time with them. We as humans all need social interaction. There is no way to avoid this basic primal human necessity, even if you’re a introvert nerd like me. Being around your family who appreciate you for you or your friends who like you for the bad-a dude that you are will signal to your own brain that you actually are a cool, worthy person that a lot of people like. Then you will realize one day that the breakup was no big deal, and there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

Like this post? I highly recommend you check out my other similar article, 5 Things Not To Do After A Breakup, which are five things I know you are already doing or you’re about to after your girlfriend breaks up with you: https://howtogetoverabreakup.travel.blog/2019/08/31/5-things-not-to-do-after-a-breakup/.

Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or medical professional. Please do not take my advice as if I was a doctor or medical professional, as I am not qualified to give that kind of health advice. Please be smart, and use your best judgement when starting a new diet/health/exercise plan and consult your doctor before starting a new diet/health/exercise plan. Thank you.

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