Appear weak when you are strong, and strong when you are weak.
– Sun Tzu, The Art of War
I wasn’t sure what workout I was going to do that day, and it was giving me anxiety. Why was I being so wishy-washy about working out? My main focus should be on getting in the workout, and getting out. That’s what I have always done, and I knew that’s what I should do. It’s easy, simple, efficient. Maybe I couldn’t decide because I was still not over my ex-girlfriend who was still lingering around in my life. She would breakup with me every other day it seemed like – for reasons unknown to me. At this point we were basically friends with benefits. I was a mess.
I needed a workout that was not going to make me a mess, and keep me focused. I was doing better each day, improving, and becoming a better man. I was learning the piano, hanging out with my friends, and having a good time in life. But this girl was still a slight bump in the road, a slight distraction, although I was having fun with her. I needed something with no gimmicks or tricks, no “muscle confusion,” I needed something that was going to ground me, and I found something just for that.
After my workout I felt more grounded, more clear, more focused, and more importantly – more relaxed. Things were going my way it seemed, and I was loving life. It was the Summer, so I was looking forward to going outside in the pool and enjoying the Georgia heat. I felt good.
You are going to be surprised by the workout that I did that day to help ground me, to help me feel more focused, and to help me get over my ex. You are going to guess that I did some cardio maybe – that would make the most sense. It does help alleviate the stress the most it seems, because there is nothing like sweating and breathing hard while feeling your heart pumping and working out all your frustrations while on a exercise bike. But no, it wasn’t cardio.
You might guess it was weights – again, you are wrong. Don’t get me wrong, I love lifting and I love lifting weights and feeling the “pump.” There is nothing like it and I will seek it till’ the day I die. But no, it was not weights that made me feel so grounded that day.
Then you might guess I did some type of outdoor fitness, such as going on a hike or walking outside. Again you are wrong. There is nothing like walking outside and hiking that seems to calm you down, and make you feel happy. Multiple studies have shown this, and there is something to it. But it was not quite what I needed that day to help me get over this ex and breakup I was going through.
Lastly, you might guess that I did some type of group exercise, such as a fitness class, camp, etc. because of the combined interaction with other people (hot girls in yoga pants specifically) and exercise, and again you would also be wrong. Although having interaction with other people, especially beautiful young girls in skin-tight yoga pants combined with working out is extremely effective in getting over a breakup, this is not what I did that day to help me get over a breakup either.
The secret workout that helped me get over this breakup was something that all of you probably do not do on regular basis as guys. You probably overlook it and think it is something that is reserved for girls or older people. But I guarantee it is something that relaxes you, calms you down, and helps you think in a more logical way while helping you get over your breakup. The secret workout I am talking about it yoga. Here are six reason why:
- It relieves stress in a different way than any other form of exercise
For whatever reason, being in a downward dog pose while breathing deeply thinking about nothing other than your feet and hands touching the mat forces a ton of stress out of your body in ways lifting a dumbbell or running can’t. Not only will the stretches “melt” stress out of your body like melting butter, but it will also teach you how to breathe properly so that you can relieve more stress, and will also teach you how to meditate to relieve even more stress, and clear your mind. This is absolutely key to growing into a better person, and getting over your breakup.
2. It challenges you in ways you have never been challenged before
Can you think of any situation where you had to balance on one foot while holding your palms together while only focusing on your breath while performing a meditative chant? Can you think of any situation that forced you to just lay on the floor and cover your head and face with a pillow while clearing your mind? Chances are, you have not and have not encountered this type of exercise before, while in contrast, you probably have had to run before to try and chase your dog, or probably had to lift weight before when lifting a heavy box from a shelf while moving. Your brain will love being challenged in a new way.
3. It has been time-tested and proven
Many people think of old rituals and exercises as archaic and therefore boring and useless. This could not be more untrue. Some of the oldest practices are still around today because they are so invaluable and helpful. Take for example my parents. I love my parents more than anything in the world, but they insist on vacuuming hard-wood floors. Since our house is entirely hardwood floors save for the exception of a couple of rugs, there is a lot of vacuuming hardwood floors going on in our house. I, on the other hand use the broom to sweep hardwood floors because a) it is easier and b) it is more efficient than lugging around a heavy vacuum cleaner that makes the puppy bark like a wild little uncontrolled wolf. They insist that vacuuming is the better method, mainly because sweeping is thought of as “old” and “useless.” Although it is an old method of cleaning, it is still used today and has stood the test of time because it is so useful and efficient and simple. The same goes true for yoga. Yoga has been around for thousands of years because it is extremely useful and there is a great amount of utility in practicing on a regular basis, while doing modern forms of cardio such as riding the bike and certain types of weight lifting have only been around for a couple of hundred years. Yoga has been around for a long time for a reason.
4. It makes you more attractive
Have you ever noticed how attractive girls who do yoga are? Not only are the yoga pants hot, but being able to contort your body into sexy positions is also an incredibly attractive skill, so what do you think that says about you when you can do it?
5. It gives you confidence in a different way
Sure, getting jacked and deadlifting 500 pounds makes you a more confident man, or being able to run a marathon likely builds confidence too. But being able to hold your body and contort it in certain positions, as well as being able to hold extremely difficult poses that look so simple, so easy, builds a new type of confidence. Meditation at the end of your yoga session also clears your mind, and gives you a type of clear-minded confidence that says, “I know who I am and what my purpose on this Earth is.” That’s the kind of confidence that feels better than good.
6. You don’t need any equipment – so you have no excuses
One of the greatest things about yoga is that anybody, including you, can start right now. Have some empty space on your living room floor? Great. Have some space with hardwood floors in your house where you can be alone for 15 minutes? Even better (clean, hardwood floors makes it easier for your hands and feet to grip the floor so you are not sliding around like your a small car driving on a large patch of ice). You really can’t make excuses and say, “well not today, I really can’t make it to the gym,” or “well it’s raining outside, I can’t run or ride my bike on this day.” So with no excuses and no equipment needed, what are you waiting for? Get to it, you have an ex-girlfriend to get over.
Need some more workout advice on how to get over a breakup? Check out one of my more popular articles, Workout Post-Breakup – The Perfect Workout To Help You Get Over Your Ex-Girlfriend – https://howtogetoverabreakup.travel.blog/2021/02/05/workout-post-breakup-the-perfect-workout-to-help-you-get-over-your-ex-girlfriend/.
Need some tips/rules on how to maintain your diet during a breakup? Check out my posts on the importance of a simple diet during a breakup: https://howtogetoverabreakup.travel.blog/2021/02/04/dieting-for-a-breakup-the-subtle-art-of-simplicity/ and my post on some basic rules for following a diet during a breakup: https://howtogetoverabreakup.travel.blog/2019/08/26/diet-for-a-breakup-why-you-should-watch-your-diet-during-this-time/.
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor or medical professional. Please do not take my advice as if I was a doctor or medical professional, as I am not qualified to give that kind of health advice. Please be smart, and use your best judgement when starting a new diet/health/exercise plan and consult your doctor before starting a new diet/health/exercise plan. Thank you.
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