“Christmas doesn’t come from a store. Maybe Christmas perhaps means a little bit more.”
– Theodor Seuss Geisel, aka Dr. Seuss
It was almost 8pm and I couldn’t figure out what to wear. I knew I was being a girl about it, but I was indecisive. “Should I wear the red sweater, or my classic white button down with khakis that I always wear?” I thought. I wanted to look good for my girlfriend, because I knew for certain that she was going to look hot, and also knew tonight I was more than likely going to get lucky when we went to bed. I was equally excited for that as well as the party we were going to attend.
I like going to parties on special occasions, even though I am a very shy guy and don’t talk much. I was always the shy quiet one growing up, and coupled with being the youngest brother in my family girls would always pinch my cheeks and say, “oh he’s so cute!” I would smile shyly in response and feel my cheeks flush beet-red, and have absolutely no idea what to say back because I was too shy and had absolutely no idea on how to flirt with girls older than me. To this day, I still have trouble with learning on how to flirt with girls, but at least I know it’s a weakness I can work on.
After thorough and painstaking deliberation, I decided on the red sweater with khakis before leaving for the Christmas party. The sweater fit me well, and I thought it was the perfect fit to show off my chest and to maybe show off some of the work I had been putting into the gym this Winter. I grabbed my keys and trusty backpack and headed out the door in anticipation for a romantic and fun evening with my girl.
I was right, my girlfriend did end up looking hot that night. Her hair was done perfectly, her makeup was done in such a way signaling that she had be doing her own makeup for years and knew what she was doing, and she was wearing the perfect outfit to symbolize Christmas as well as accentuate her chest. I was even more excited after I saw her.
We arrived to the Christmas party and the alcohol and wine starting flowing freely, although I stayed a sober man that night. I usually don’t drink anyways at parties because I am usually the designated driver, or “DD” for my friends, and have never been a huge fan of alcohol. My soberness did not retract from the fun of the evening though, and I was having fun just being there with my girlfriend.
We had been dating for several months at the time, and were moving from the point of getting familiar with each other to being more serious. There were several other couples there that were together in long-term more serious relationships, and it was somehow comforting to be around other couples who were dating just like us. It made me feel more comfortable in our relationship, and made our relationship more fun and relatable to other people. That coupled with my girlfriend’s outgoing and extroverted personality and her ability to make new friends within moments of meeting people made me fall in love with her and love her more under the warm glow of the red lights and feeling of Christmas and happiness at that Christmas party that night.
I stood in the corner and casually watched my girlfriend mingle with everyone else, and although I hardly said a word I was just happy to be there as the night grew later and people became more tipsy. Picture time came during the middle of the party and we took a picture together, with her pressing her body tight against mine. It felt good to be close to her, and it also felt good to know that she thought I was attractive enough to take a picture with. She was one of the few girls in my life to actually call me “hot,” and it made me feel more secure in myself as well.
Finally it was time to leave and my girlfriend said bye to all of her friends. We left together and met back at her apartment and she hugged me goodnight because I had to go home and could not stay at her apartment that night.I was happy because I was in the Christmas spirit and had the warm familiar feeling Christmas always brings around this time of year, and did not mind feeling the slight pang of sadness and loneliness knowing that I was not going to get to cuddle my perfectly small and cozy five foot tall girlfriend that night. There was plenty more opportunities in the future to hug her and cuddle her before we went to bed.
Christmas is probably the best time of year to have a serious girlfriend. This experience shows that it is a good time of year to be involved in “cuffing season,” or the season people are “handcuffed” together or in a serious relationship with one another because there are a number of upsides that are just plain awesome and make you feel good, and represent the best of Christmas and what it was intended to be. These include:
- It’s really nice to have the comfort of a girl in your bed on a cold Christmas night
Christmas is about being with others and spending time with your friends and family in my humble opinion. To me it’s not about gifts or shopping, I hate shopping more than I hate getting punched in the face. And yes, I have been punched in the face before – I have a big tough older brother who is built like a bull. But there is nothing like coming home from work to your girl, having her make you a hot bowl of soup, and cuddling with her under the warm covers while it’s cold outside. No amount of money, gifts, or items could substitute for the awesome feeling of that.
2. The feeling of Christmas can be contagious to your relationship
At our Christmas party we went to several years ago, we had a good time. Everyone was happy because it was Christmas, and the feeling of Christmas, joy, and happiness was in the air. Everything was warm and glowing red, and you couldn’t help but feel warm and red on the inside and want to kiss your girlfriend. Spending and celebrating Christmas with my girlfriend and giving her gifts and celebrating a holiday we both understood and supported the meaning for strengthened our relationship, and made me love her more than I already did.
3. It will reveal to you the type of girl you are dating
In the dating world there are two types of women – high maintenance and low maintenance. “High maintenance” girls typically expect a lot of gifts or expensive gifts for Christmas, while low maintenance girls will typically expect only a couple gifts or no gifts at all. Their expectations are not the same, and they were instilled there in their unexplainably complicated female brains some time ago whether that was while they were a child with a rich father or they may have been born that way. Regardless, you will find out real quick what kind of girl you have through the gift giving process, and some guys do better with high maintenance, and others do not. Some guys love showering their women with gifts, and cannot stand not to give their girl something incredibly expensive for the holidays. I personally am into low maintenance girlfriends, and have found that I am a person who had a hard time finding happiness through buying material things. Like I said before, for me, the best things in life are typically the things that money can’t buy, like going to a nice Christmas party with your girl late one night prior to Christmas Eve or coming home and having your girl eat hot soup and cuddle with you after a long, hard day on a cold Christmas night. That’s the best.
4. Spending Christmas with your girlfriend may show you where you stand with her
If your girlfriend likes you then she will probably want to spend Christmas or celebrate Christmas with you and exchange gifts. If your girlfriend really likes you she will want to spend Christmas with you and will even take you to parties and take pictures of you to show you off in your Christmas attire. If she really, really likes you then she will celebrate Christmas with you and may even invite you to celebrate Christmas with her family and show you off to her own family. These are things that I have found that have showed me in the past how a girl feels about me. At the time I didn’t realize my girlfriend was signaling to me that she really liked me when she took me to a Christmas party to meet all her friends, but as is most things in life, hindsight is almost always crystal clear.
5. Girls look hot on Christmas
Let’s face it. Girls are really, really good at dressing up. And there is something about seeing your girlfriend dress up on Christmas that is beyond gratifying. They know how to wear red to look drop-dead gorgeous, and know the perfect clothes to wear to look gorgeous as well, and that’s good new for you because you get to look at her all season long and drink eggnog and if you’re lucky, go to a Christmas party and drink hot soup and cuddle.
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