“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.“
– Thomas Edison
I woke up late the next day tired and irritable. There was a stream of slobber that had pooled the night before onto the bed creating a weird sticky spot that was I was not proud of. My eyes were caked in crust and I almost forgot where I was until I looked around. This bedroom wasn’t familiar to me. “Why was my headboard different? Where was the window that was usually to my right?” Then I remembered everything was different because I was actually staying the night at my parents house instead of my girlfriends apartment. “Oh yeah, she dumped me about a week ago,” I remembered. I had been staying at her apartment so often that I forgot what my bedroom felt like to sleep in. Between that and sleeping in so late, it almost vanquished my memory.
At this point my schedule was almost non-existent. I had already graduated college but recently lost my job, (who knew my boss could be such a dick) and did not need a schedule at all. The only priorities I had at the time were applying on jobs, applying to try to get into graduate school, and getting the last of my stuff back from my girlfriends apartment. So I was going to sleep in if I wanted to.
At the time I did not realize this was a severe detriment to the progress I would make in getting over my ex who randomly decided to dump me right before Thanksgiving. At the time before she dumped me I was looking forward to trying to eating as much Thanksgiving Turkey as I could with her and was blindsided when she called me one lonely night while I was at home. Thus my schedule suffered a blow, and I started to not care about using an alarm clock. Why should you keep a schedule you might ask?
- Sleeping at weird/off times has been shown to have a negative impact on your health
There have been various studies that have shown if you sleep in on the weekends even then you are throwing off your internal clock, and this will likely screw up your sleep patterns in the future. This is a negative because when you are going through a breakup you will need to be in the healthiest state mentally and physically. I noticed this shortly after sleeping in at my parents and started to maintain a consistent schedule, which helped me out in the long run.
2. It’s easy to break good habits
When you sleep in and decide to wake up at 2pm and try to start your morning routine, a rollercoaster of bad decisions are likely to happen. First, you will likely skip your morning workout (I will likely write an entire article on why you should work out in the morning), then you will probably skip eating a couple of healthy meals or snacks that day because you already let your workout slide, then you might even skimp out on a date you had with a cute girl that night because you felt terrible from sleeping too much the night before. One bad decision sometimes spirals us down to multiple even worse decisions, so don’t go down that path in the first place.
3. You will miss out on social opportunities
So let’s say you do decide to sleep in until 2pm and still maintain discipline by hitting your morning workout at home, then prepare a healthy lunch and even get some chores done like laundry and cleaning your dorm room. Great, but guess what time it is after you get all of these obligatory items done? Probably around 8 or 9pm. Guess who texted you at 5 or 6pm asking you if you’re free and if you wanted to hang out to get drinks that night? That cute girl you met in your introductory to biology class or that other attractive female you happened to match with online. Guess there goes that opportunity. And based on the habits and tendencies of every female that’s ever lived, these two girls are likely to lose interest when you don’t hang out with them and maintain a texting buddy relationship and will likely ghost you all together if you can’t get your schedule in some kind of order.
4. You will miss out on life opportunities all together
When you do accidentally lose your own sense of a schedule your girlfriend breaks up with you you will find that you will lose out on opportunities from work, school, and general life. For example maybe there was a networking opportunity on campus at the college of business that you meant to go to, but missed it because your schedule was set back? Or maybe one of your classes was offering extra credit, and the professor sent out an e-mail last-minute alerting everyone of an extra credit opportunity that evening? Or maybe your mom who you never see texted you, and let you know she is in the area and would like to see you? All of these things could easily be missed to an inconsistent schedule, and all of these things are key when it comes to getting over a breakup.
Set an alarm clock to get up at the same time every day, or try to get enough sleep so that you can naturally wake up at the same time every time and perform and be at your best. This will gradually lead to other good decisions, such as being able to workout, eat healthy, and be healthy, and you will also be rewarded with the option of being able to hang out with a cute girl, take advantage of job opportunities, do well in classes, and see your family. There is a good quote on this that goes something along the lines of: “luck is where preparation meets opportunity” by the Roman philosopher Seneca and this could not apply more to setting a reasonable schedule. Plan to get up, have a routine of either meditating, making your bed, working out, eating, making your meals, etc. and you will be on your way to becoming better than you were yesterday, move on over your ex, and on your way to becoming a better man.
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